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No Need to Shoot Your Ring off!

Everyone knows the Beyonce song, “If you like it then you shoulda put a ring on it…” it’s catchy and cute, but what happens when you want that ring off?

 

If you are considering a divorce in Lewisville, there is no need to go to extremes to remove your wedding band.  A man in Pennsylvania learned that the hard way when he tried to shoot his wedding band off of his finger.

Read the full article here:

http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-504083_162-57574596-504083/drunk-federal-prison-guard-shoots-at-own-finger-to-remove-wedding-ring-police-say/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+CBSNewsTravelGuru+%28Travel+Guru%3A+CBSNews.com%29

If you are considering a divorce in the Lewisville or surrounding area you should know there are much less harmful or dramatic ways to being the process. Remember ACC, (Assets, Children, Cooperation) when you start thinking about your divorce process:

Assets- meaning anything of value (property, cars, furniture, jewelry, cash, stocks etc.) Know what your assets are. Texas is a community property state, therefore any property or assets acquired after a marriage are equally owned by both spouses, unless there is a written legal agreement prior to marriage. You need to know what assets you have, where they are, and what if any assets you had prior to marriage. Assets held prior to marriage are separate property and belong only to the spouse that held them before the marriage.

Children- no matter what, they will be impacted by a divorce as a parent and adult it is your job to ensure they are not put in the middle of any divorce proceeding.

Cooperation – consider that you and your spouse will both have lawyers and other expenses to pay in the process of a divorce. Think about if there is any middle ground between the two of you. The more you can agree on in separating assets and arranging potential custody agreements, the less legal and other fees you and your spouse will have to pay.

Do you have questions about pursuing a divorce and what you should be thinking about? The Wright Firm is here to help and provide comprehensive legal representation through every step of your divorce. Give us a call at (972) 353-4600, or check us out on the web at www.thewrightlawyers.com

What is Texas “Expanded Standard” Visitation?

What is “Expanded Standard” Visitation?

The most important issue that many parents face in a divorce or child custody case is how much time they will ultimately have with their child. In these situations, parents must make decisions about the rights and duties that they will each have over their child, along with the possession schedule that the parents and child will follow. If the parents are unable to come to an agreement on these terms, then a court will make a ruling on the issues. In many cases, one parent is appointed as the “custodial” or “home-base” parent who determines the primary residence of the child. The other parent, the “non-custodial parent,” follows a possession schedule over the child.

The most common possession schedule for non-custodial parents is called the Standard Possession Order. It grants the non-custodial parent time with the child every Thursday evening during the normal school term, and every first, third, and fifth weekend of each month beginning at 6:00 p.m. on Friday and ending at 6:00 p.m. on the following Sunday. In addition to these times, the non-custodial parent is awarded 30 days in the summer months, a week during Christmas break, and alternating spring break and Thanksgiving holidays.

The Standard Possession Order is presumed to be in the best interest of the child in all Texas family law cases, unless one party produces evidence to the contrary. While the Standard Possession Order is the most widely used schedule, it is important to note that it is the minimum amount of time that courts deem  appropriate between a child and the non-custodial parent. If a parent wishes for the non-custodial parent to receive more time with the child, he or she should ask the court to grant them Expanded Standard Visitation under the Texas Family code (§153.317).

Expanded Standard Possession allows for a non-custodial parent to make certain elections to extend the duration of the standard possession order. These elections are:

WEEKENDS: The non-custodial parent can choose to pick up the child when school is dismissed on Friday and/or return the child when the child’s school resumes the following Monday.

THURSDAYS: The non-custodial parent can choose to pick up the child when school is dismissed on Thursday and/or return the child when the child’s school resumes the following Friday.

            HOLIDAYS: Expanded Standard also lengthens the time available for holiday periods of possession (Christmas, Thanksgiving, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, and so forth), and for extended weekends due to holidays.  

The benefit of Expanded Standard to many non-custodial parents is that it creates a period of uninterrupted visitation for four nights, lasting from the end of school Thursday through the following Monday morning for the non-custodial parent’s weekend possession. This duration can be beneficial to increasing a child’s bond with the non-custodial parent.

If a parent does not elect Expanded Standard Visitation under the Texas Family Code, then their claim to it is waived and he or she may not retroactively elect it after the Order is entered. Therefore, it is important to discuss this option with an experienced Texas Family Lawyer to help you enter a possession schedule that works for you and your family.

If you have questions about possession schedules in a child custody or divorce case, contact the Wright Lawyers at 972-353-4600 or visit us on the web at www.thewrightlawyers.com 

Split or 50/50 Custody of Children

The court will always look to the best interest of the child when determining the proper arrangement for the custody of a child.  In Texas, there is a presumption that the Texas Family Code’s Standard Possession Order is in the best interest of children.  However, this presumption can be rebutted.  The problem with the Texas Family Code’s standard possession order is that, because every family law case is different, the standard possession order does not fit in every situation. 

 

 Many clients go to their family law attorney and request 50/50 custody or a custody schedule that is evenly split down the middle between the two parents.  Some parents believe this will alleviate their child support obligation, however this is a common misnomer regarding 50/50 schedules.  Other parents want a 50/50 schedule simply because they wish to visit their children as much as possible.  Whatever the reason, there are several issues in the family law arena related to these types of arrangements. 

 

Many judges do not prefer 50/50 schedules because they feel it is too stressful on the children.  The reasoning behind this argument is that the children are moving around too much and cannot gain consistency in a home.  It can be argued that the arrangement creates stress on the child or children.  For example, a child who is required to pack up and move from one parents home one week to another parent’s home the next week may resent the schedule.  Perhaps there is some validity behind this argument.  A week on, week of schedule may be one of the more difficult schedules to pass off to a judge. 

 

 A schedule that divides up custody of the child on what some may consider a somewhat more regular schedule may be better utilized.  This may sound confusing, because a week on week off schedule is consistent.  However, for example, a schedule where the child spends certain days of the week with one parent and certain days of the week with the other parent may create more of a routine, such as a 5-2-2-5 schedule where the child spends every Monday and Tuesday with one Parent and Every Wednesday and Thursday with the other parent and then alternates Friday through Sunday.  Under a schedule of this nature, the child is allowed more consistency because it is known that every Monday and Tuesday night, they will be with a specific parent.  The child can then create more of a routine knowing they will be with a specific parent on specific days of the week.  The child can leave belongings at the parent’s home that they only use on the weekdays they are at that parent’s home.  The child will be better able to mentally associate their routine with each parent as well.  This is especially helpful as schools move more towards using block scheduling methods regarding classes. 

 

            Whether it be because frequent and continuing contact with the child will only be achieved by a revised schedule, or because one of the parents has an uncommon work schedule, it will be easier for the court to award the schedule if the facts of your case are helped by the schedule.  There are a variety of 50/50 schedules that will work and the courts are allowing the schedules more and more.  The important thing to portray to the court when trying to obtain a 50/50 schedule is that the schedule is in the best interest of the children. 

For more information on Texas custody and visitation with children contact The Wright Firm, L.L.P. at www.thewrightlawyers.com  or call us at 972-353-4600.

 

 

Virgin Father says he’s “Donorsexual”

36-year-old Trent Arsenault is the father of 14 children.  Mr. Arsenault is also a virgin.  How did this happen?  Arsenault claims that he feels it is his duty to help childless couples by supplying them with sperm free of charge, and that he has devoted all of his sexual energy to this mission. He has coined the term “donorsexual” to describe his activities.  The Food and Drug Administration has ordered him to cease and desist.

                Does this mean that Mr. Arsenault is on the hook for child support for the 14 offspring he has helped create?  Under Texas law, that would turn on whether Arsenault falls within the definition of a “donor”.  Texas Family Code Sec. 160.702 says that a donor is not a parent of a child conceived by assisted reproduction.  A “donor” is a man who provides sperm to a licensed physician to be used for assisted reproduction.  If Mr. Arsenault provided his “donations” directly to the couples he is helping, then he may have a legal problem.

                Do you have questions about Texas Paternity issues?  The Wright Firm is here to help you!  Give our office a call at (972) 353-4600 or check us out on the web at www.thewrightlawyers.com.

Huffington Post article can be found here: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/02/03/trent-arsenault-donorsexual-sperm-donor-video_n_1251595.html?ref=weird-news

 

Can a divorce be bad for business?

Social media outlets have been ablaze with news of Kim Kardashian filing for divorce after a mere 72 days of wedded “bliss”.  Many are now questioning whether the $10 million wedding-turned-immediate-divorce will generate backlash that will hurt the Kardashian brand.  Though there is much hate mail flying around the Twitter-verse and wedding vendors are furious, USA today reports that Kim K’s brand is safe.  The experts interviewed all came to the same conclusion – Kim’s divorce will just be a blip on her business radar, and the publicity surrounding it could actually be good for revenues.

For those of us without our own reality show, divorce can have a bigger impact on business.  In a Texas divorce if you own an interest in a business, that ownership interest can be considered a community asset; meaning, it could go into the “pot” of assets that the court divides in your divorce.  Divorce can affect your business in other ways as well.  If you and your spouse worked together, divorce obviously will put a huge strain on that working relationship.  If your business depends on “goodwill” in the community, the mud-slinging involved in a contentious divorce can be damaging to both your business and personal reputation.

Are you worried about how a divorce will affect your business?  The Wright Firm is here to help answer your questions!  Give us a call at (972) 353-4600 or check us out on the web at www.thewrightlawyers.com.

Original USA Today story can be found here:  http://www.usatoday.com/life/people/story/2011-11-01/kim-kardashian-kris-humphries-divorce/51020246/1

In case you’re curious where Kim Kardashian falls in the ranks of shortest celebrity marriage, check out this info graphic from the Huffington Post: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/10/31/shortest-celebrity-marriages_n_1068180.html?1320097823

 

L.A. Confidential!

In a story that sounds a bit like old Hollywood film noir:  A Los Angeles private detective faces accusations of using showgirls to lure divorcing men into drunk driving charges.  Allegedly at the behest of a divorcing wife, Christopher Butler set up a “sting” operation wherein he hired a former Las Vegas dancer to connect with the husband on a dating website.  After that the showgirl just had to get the husband to meet her, take a few shots of tequila, and convince him to get behind the wheel.  The cops took it from there.

Butler, a former police detective, is also facing federal indictment for selling drugs and operating a brothel – both in conjunction with California police agencies doing undercover work.

The Wright Firm would never use illegal means to trap an opposing party.  However, there ARE legal ways of using private investigators in a divorce case.  Word to the wise – if you are going through a divorce, behave yourself as if you are being watched.  You never know when it might be happening!

Do you need help with your divorce case?  Are you curious what options are available to investigate your spouse? Give The Wright Firm a call at (972) 353-4600, or check us out on the web at www.thewrightlawyers.com.

For the full American Bar Association article, click here:  http://www.abajournal.com/news/article/private_detective_accused_of_setting_up_divorcing_men_for_duis_with_help_of/?utm_source=maestro&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=weekly_email

 

Married to Her Stepdad?

As a child, Orola Dalbot really liked her stepfather.  He was kind and good-looking.  However, Orola was horrified when she found out that the man was not only her stepfather – he was her husband!  Orola was married at the age of 3 in the same wedding as her mother to the same man, but she did not find out that she was married until she turned 13. 

 

The unusual marriage relationship came about because of an old custom of Orola’s tribe, the Mandi people of Bangladesh.  Orola’s mother Mittamoni was widowed at the age of 25.  According to tribal rules, for Mittamoni to remarry – she had to marry someone in the same family clan as her deceased husband.  The problem was, and is for many other women in the Mandi tribe, that there weren’t many unmarried men available who were both of marrying age and of the correct family clan.  So, Mittamoni’s only option for a groom was a 17-year-old man. When a Mandi widow marries a much younger man, tribal tradition requires that the widow offer her daughter as a sort of “alternate bride” to take over the wifely duties (yes, ALL of them) when the daughter comes of age.

 

Mothers and daughters share a lot, but can you imagine having to share a husband with your mom?  The multi-marriage took a toll on Orola’s relationship with her mother, particularly when their shared husband began to prefer his younger bride.  Her mother apparently went so far as to spike Orola’s food to make her sick, so that Mittamoni could have a night with their husband.

 

Hopefully, none of our blog readers have a family situation THIS complicated.  But whatever your family drama involves – The Wright Firm is here to help you!  If you have an ongoing or potential divorce, child custody case, child support case, or other family law issue be sure to give us a call at (972) 353-4600 or check us out on the web at www.thewrightlawyers.com!

 

Original story can be found here:  http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/article.aspx?cp-documentid=30351206&GT1=32002

 

Heartbreak Hotel!

A company in the Netherlands is now offering “Divorce Hotel” services.  The concept was created by Dutchman Jim Halfens.  As part of the divorce weekend package, a divorcing couple receives two nights in the nights in the hotel, legal counsel for each spouse, a notary public and a psychologist.  An estate planner, on-site child care and even a bottle of champagne to toast the divorce are available a la carte.

Halfens says that this is less like a weekend getaway for the couple and more like a structured business conference.  The first meeting begins bright and early Saturday morning after breakfast and continues with very little breaks until a deal is reached – even if that’s late into Sunday night.  The weekend divorce deal is not suited to complex property divisions or hotly contested custody cases.  However, for sensible couples who “won’t smash the furniture” and don’t want to miss work for court hearings or mediations, the “divorce hotel” offers an unusual solution.

No similar service is available stateside right now, but the Wright Firm is always open to creative ways of resolving your divorce case!  We have two family law attorneys trained in collaborative law, and we also offer flat-rate plans for uncontested divorces.  To learn more about these services, check out our websites at www.thewrightlawyers.com and www.NoFrillsTexasDivorce.com! 

Original article can be found here: http://www.nzherald.co.nz/lifestyle/news/article.cfm?c_id=6&objectid=10744656

 

Wacky Marriage Laws

Clients complain to me all the time about how strange Texas Family Law is.  Well, to all of those critics, I say take a look at the following weird marriage laws from other U.S. States:

1. Montana is the only state in America where BOTH the bride and the groom can use a “proxy” to stand in for them if they cannot be present at their own wedding.  (Okay, to be fair – Texas does permit ONE prospective spouse to appear by proxy.  See Texas Family Code Section 2.203)
2. For a few months, Arkansas law permitted ANYONE under 18 (even infants) to marry if they had parental consent.  The state legislators forgot to put in an age minimum! This goof was corrected in April 2008, and we will assume all toddler marriages have since been annulled.
3. I double-dare you to divorce me!  In Delaware an official legal ground for annulment is that you got married “because of a jest or dare.”
4. In Kentucky it is illegal to marry the same person 4 times.  You can get married to and divorced from different people, however, as many times as you want.
5. Massachusetts has a 2 unusual marriage laws to its credit:
   1. A married couple may not sleep in the nude in a rented room (what pervy innkeeper keeps an eye on this?); and
   2. In Truro, MA - A groom-to-be must prove his manliness by hunting and killing either 6 blackbirds or 3 crows.  Nothing more manly than a bird hunter!
   3. In South Carolina, it is a misdemeanor for a man over the age of 16 to propose marriage and not “mean it.”  But, I suppose if someone dared the guy to propose, he could always run to Delaware for an annulment…
   4. In Wichita, Kansas, a woman cannot use her husband’s mistreatment of her mother as a ground for divorce.  Good news for guys who hate their mother-in-law.
   5. Keep those lips to yourself!  In Hartford, Connecticut, it is illegal for married couples to kiss on Sunday.
   6. In New Orleans, Louisiana, it is against the law for a palm reader, fortune teller, or other “mystic” to perform a wedding ceremony.  Are they afraid the medium is going to tip off the couple about their future marital problems?

Have questions about our (much more normal!) Texas laws on marriage and divorce?  Give The Wright Firm a call at (972) 353-4600 or check us out on the web at www.thewrightlawyers.com!

Original MSN story can be found here: http://glo.msn.com/relationships/10-obscure-marriage-laws-5450.gallery?gt1=49006

 

A Sex Scandal Without the Sex!

Much ado has been made recently about U. S. Rep. Anthony Weiner sending sexually explicit messages and images via the internet to various women.  While there is a long-running tradition of sex scandals among American politicians, the quirk in Rep. Weiner’s story is that – as far as anyone is acknowledging – there has been no actual sex involved.  This is the “sex scandal” for the Age of Facebook and Twitter.

Weiner is not alone.  A May 2010 study by the Pew Internet and American Life Project, 15% of adults reported that they had received a sexually suggestive nude or nearly nude photo or video on their cell phones.  6% admitted to having sent such messages.  Of adults in the 18-to-29 age bracket, 31% stated that they had received and 13% that they had sent sexually explicit messages.

But, is an internet- or cell phone-based “affair” really cheating?  Under Texas law, it does NOT meet the definition of adultery.  To qualify as “adultery” there must be voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone who is not the spouse of that person.  That doesn’t necessarily mean, however that your spouse won’t see a cyber affair as cheating.  The Associate Press reports in the wake of the Weiner debacle, that many Americans have stated via online postings and phone interviews that the emotional betrayal is just as bad as a physical betrayal.  As a divorce attorney, I can personally attest to the increasing role Facebook and other social media are playing in my clients’ cases.

The Bottom Line:  If you wouldn’t tweet it, post it or text it with your spouse looking over your shoulder, there’s a good chance your spouse will think it’s cheating.

For information on Texas law contact The Wright Firm, L.L.P. at 972-353-4600 or visit us on the web at www.thewrightlawyers.com 

See Yahoo News article here:  http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20110607/ap_on_re_us/us_weiner_is_sexting_cheating

See MSNBC article here:  http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/43365868/ns/politics-capitol_hill/